I gave him probably too many chances and still it didn't happen. Don't build your hopes up, like I did, I was too trusting, I have learnt from it but even so I was sucked into this mans lies, think some men do this just for their ego. Take care out there. If they are interested, he would meet you asap, don't get strung along like me.

Move on and do what makes you happy. Let me give you advice please tell the guy that you are going to cut off all ties and communication with him and let him know,if he tried to contact you that he will be blocked. I think this guy is a huge red flag and may not be who you think he is. You still don't don't know if he is a criminal,rapist,child molester or a killer. You can't tell what they are up to when there's a distance'iL see how this pans out' if it dosent then never again' it's affecting my sleep and everyday life..

We met through a dating app and talked alot then decided to meet up. He lives 2hrs away and came all the way from his area to meet me in my college which is 2hr20 min journey from his college and i didnt have to travel. I loved him for that so much. He is 20 and i am My bf did start talking to me less after about 2 months of dating, and i know this is normal because theres excitement in the beginning of the relationship?

I have posted pictures on instagram and he commented in it with lots of "??????? I don't know his friends and he doesnt know mine. And after i got instagram and asked for his insta i noticed that he followed a girl who he claimed to know. He told me "she is some slut from my school, everyone knows her around here" because i had an argument with him in message because the comments on the girls pictures were unacceptable because other boys were commenting "come and get that dick" and that kind of stuff.

I felt upset and i did talk that out with him. He never commented on that girls picture though. In that girls insta it said "like and comment to get noticed" and my bf did like her pics. When i was upset about him liking that girls pic.. Does he really love me? My bf has posted pics of himself and i think he is trying to sek attention from other girls because he is commenting on other girls pictures with emojis and they are not commenting on his.

Ive seen his pictures and the comments, he mostly gets comments from boys and girls are just liking it but not commenting whereas he has commented on theirs not all but some of their pictures. So where do I begin. I met this guy online 7 months ago. He says he is a police officer, lives near, uses an app because his phone is his work phone. However, I don't know where he lives, he hasn't given me the answer, he just gives me his cross streets He tells me he works for a certain division, but he won't give me his full uniform pic, strange Maybe I'm just non trusting.

I like him ALOT. We text all day long everyday. We make plans and have kept most of them. He does have children and works strange hours. No real phone line, uses a app Don't know his exact address Only available when he wants to see me. OK, I may be a bit too young at the age of 14, going on 15, but I met this guy and he's about years older than me I told him a bit about myself, but he wanted pics, not sexy pic just of me in general I turned him down with that, I want to get to meet him in person, but I'm kinda afraid, he's a real sweat heart though. He doesn't come on strong, he's patient, kind and funny and I really like him.

What do I do?

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Wait 6 years until you have a clue what you need to be doing. If you want to be sexually active, masturbate. That is normal, but having sex at 15 is not. I met a 71 yr old man from a dating site. He often talks about his ex wife who is dying. He says he's looking for a wife, and all about his ex shared no intimacy, and he is a very romatic person.

What do you guys think? I haven't met my online guy yet. Funny thing is he tried really hard with the sexual stuff at first. I kept blowing him off. I figured he kept talking to me because it turned into a challenge. Ironically, it took a total turn into heavier conversations about ourselves. He started asking me questions and vs versa. We know our differences and similarities. We both have sense of humors and no lines.

We now talk on the phone frequently. And plan on meeting. I believe we are an exception to that rule. I am glad I am stuck it out to see where it goes. And at 40 I am not ignorant to those sexual creeps being referenced. If you don't even know a person, have only texted a dozen lines, or spoken on the phone and the conversation goes straight to sex, or 'everything' you say he does too, probably not a good sign.

I think of most of these as valid 'yellow flags' and guys should too. This is not one-sided by any means. Online dating is just a tool, and there are no measures to keep married, psychos, or players from using this tool.

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Think of the old 'bar days' if a guy came up and started sex talk your know exactly what he was looking for. I don't play games, follow rules, or any other b. Take my time to find out if someone is genuine.

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Don't put too much into profiles, they are a sales pitch not a whole person, I want to get to know a whole person. In regards to the sex aspect, if someone starts sexting immediately I won't. I have no desire to be playing games with complete strangers who may or may not be anything they say. The flirting and sexting and sex itself will naturally follow if there is a connection and chemistry with a real person. Not trying to tell anyone what speed to move their sex life at, but if you don't respect yourself no one else will. Players of both genders play the numbers game of how many can they hook.

I play the numbers game of how many of the wrong people for whatever reason do I have to sort through to find someone right and good for me. Have met some nice people, some not so. Just like real life. Watch for red flags and yellow flags just like real life. You have covered up nearly all points. One thing I want to ask which you haven't.

This man showers me with love one day and ignores me the next whole week. Does not respond to my msgs or answer my calls. He lives in India. When I visited India last month, I asked him to meet me. Though he sounded a bit reluctant at first, he said he would let me know the exact date and time to meet the next day. However, the next day he never contacted me. When I called, he just cut off my phone. After 1 week, he again contacted me and I gave him my piece of mind.

I called him names and abused verbally His only reply was he is not what I think of him, he is not ignoring me, blah blah What does he actually want? I am not able to understand. He told me he is separated from his wife. His daughter also confirmed this. And I am single mother myself. I am laughing because I fully agree.

Why are you exposing your or anyone's children at an online dating site? I've never encountered the pets but happy to learn that I have to look out for that as well. For some reason in everyday life I know it can be used as a set up i. I just quit dating a guy because he wouldn't remove his dog from the room when we had sex. Cute as the dog was, I sure don't want it IN the bed with us. Felt like a threesome and I'm not into that. I chose my timing and mustered the courage to discuss my feelings with him and the dude said that he and his dog go wayy back together.

You have to be careful, there are a lot of married men on line. So make sure you check their profile very early otherwise you get sucked in and it's hard to break free. I met two of them and there's a lot of others cheating on their wives and they've been married for years and they want to keep it that way. First before i went on a business trip and 2nd after i came back. During my trip he even texted me and all.. We texted back and forth for 2 weeks and he 'disappeared' suddenly.

Did not hear from him for nearly 2 months and i decided I should retire from the app. To date someone online is really scary. There is this recent experience that made me think twice about having friends with someone online. I went out once with this guy from east europe on a bright sunny sunday afternoon. It was a casual meetup for a drink. I was slightly early and walked around a mall. And shortly, he called and mentioned he has reached while I was in the restroom and after missed calls, I returned his call and said that I would be coming down and we met at the entrance.

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He is stout looking guy with a body-builder bods. He looks sincere and friendly and we walked to the nearest coffeshop and he bought me a plus while he took a redbull. This is the very first time in my life to have a date with an european and we chatted on. I told him about me being divorced and had 3 kids. And he saying that all his family in Europe and he is never married. And he said that ever since he is of a certain age which i couldnt recall what age , he decided that he wants an asian partner. He also mentioned that he dated some air stewardess, whom wanted to get married during the first few dates.

And also many girls he had come across. I shared with him that I do have my fair share of unhappy past and now looking into settling down. And honestly telling him that to me, physical appearance unimportant to me and his bods look huge And that evening, I am not sure how it started and he sent me a long long message. Saying that how disrespectful and uncouth i am. How disgusted with the way I speak and that no matter i think how successful i am, to him i dont speak and think intelligently and i must be dysfunctional and thats why I am divorced.

He even texted that he would even reject me if I would to offer him no-string attached sex. Seriously, i find that he is a phsyco. Then after a day, he texted and asked me to return the drinks money, a dollar plus drink and saying that he feels disgusted to even spend a cent paying my drinks for this type of woman.


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He is really sick. And he even called my office and asked me to transfer the money. I find that it is so scary. And thereafter, after many weeks,out of the blue, i received a text from this sicko as i changed hp set and forgot to set block settings and same set of text saying that how disgusted talking to me and even i offered no strings attached sex, he would reject. Oh gosh, there is never a hint at all from me.

And i reported the message to police and blocked his number. Till now, thank God, no hear from such sicko again. But, since he knows my office number, i am sure he knows who i am and i have to be really extra careful. Eversince then, i never met anyone onlinr,especially europeans.

Watch our for Match. My girlfriends and I have had: Men ask us on the 1st meeting if we smoke weed to enhance sex; to get him some laughing gas or nitro asked of my R. Even the ones with real careers I've met a Ph. The first wanted to have instant sex and marriage in a month as he complained his wife was frigid , the second, after dating for a year, confessed he was bi-curious and wanted to have another man have sex with me while he went second after having the other male sort of dangle himself in front of him. Guy number two, btw, proposed marriage, gave me a ring, then presented me with his list of demands besides MMF sex; also that I get silicone implants and a face lift [at 45!

I talked to two therapists who have said that online dating is a harbor for the mentally ill. I have never had a negative experience dating. In fact all the people I have met seem relatively normal. Shamaine Wai Sorry to hear that and yes it was a very scary situation but mistake 1 you should never ever give your office number to nobody, address or home address 2 your personal cellphone, there is few app with a second line like "Text Pinger" etc you can goggle search. Some man use those type of vocabulary to make you feel insecure and see if you was weak enough to give him money, he was using threat againt you also follow your guts feeling I bet you felt something before meet him that day but you totally ignore it please don't ignore it again we have it for a reason.

I have been talking to a guy on line for 3 months I'm Scotland he's US he seems so lovely but has his moments if I call 'he's like I'm tired it's the heat I mean we Skype so I've seen his abode.. And when I say I can't do this anymore he gets all upset I will pass on any man that wants to immediately discuss sex! I tried to put him off. Guys, when you first "meet" someone, that is NOT the way to her heart! Wow, what a load of BS.

Guys are all players and none of us have feelings right? So if I guy fits this description: I read this stuff to try and figure out what women want, only to find they are narcissistic, self absorbed and don't enjoy anything outside of a relationship that will last for the rest of their lives, and strangely, as soon as they're pregnant their off looking for another man to father their children. I've also found women have raised their own standards so high that no man will fit the bill, and that men are of course dogs with no feelings who deserve nothing.

A complete bitch of a woman wasted 15 years of my life, she spoke down to me like I was dirt, cheated on my regularly, and went out to the bar with her friends while I stayed home alone with the kids. I'm now single but finding a date is nearly impossible unless she's a blimp, I'm fit btw. I now have several self esteem issues and I've considered suicide many times.

Your article further plants seeds of distrust as David pointed out, and it does not promise men any advantage to investing years of effort into a relationship the woman will potentially get bored from and 'kick the man to the curb' as you so eloquently stated. In my experience women full of lies and deceit, and it's unfortunate I have an attraction toward them. I'm sorry Jon that you've gone through that. I can't believe she took advantage of you, and don't ever let someone push you like that. I hope all is well. I disagree with this article just as much as you do.

This is such a ridiculous article. Other than the puppy stuff, I wouldn't think twice about anything and actually welcome what they are saying is a red flag. I'm sorry you were messed around, and are single now. Please, remember, there is someone out there for you that will make up for all the pain. I'm going through the same "cyber player" that seemed so sweet and did everything the article said - other than the puppy - and I liked it.

Others had done the same thing, and wasn't such a big deal. Yea, players might do this, but good men do too. Don't pay attention to it. Good luck on your romance, and remember suicide is a permanent problem to a temporary solution. Yea, your self esteem is down in the gutter, but it happens to everyone. You are not alone. You feel like you are down in the hole of the Silence of the Lambs and can never get back out. The way I got over it was to 1, realize that I dodged a huge bullet!!

I could have - as you - wasted more time with the wrong person. So, yea, it hurts, but you will eventually get over it. At least you are not in a bad relationship. I'd rather be single than to be with someone that treats me like dirt. At least you have a great body!! Most guys don't have that You will be snatched up in no time. I retread your comment twice to give you the benefit of my doubt. I'm afraid you're going to find dating and the world in general an unfair and harsh reality until you stop blaming others.

No one 'does' anything to you. You chose to stay in a bad marriage. You chose to let your ex treat you like dirt until you got smarter and made a better choice. I'm sure your motivation was sound, but deep down, I think you knew your marriage was not a good match before you celebrated your 15th anniversary.

We're all imperfect human beings. Hopefully we all learn from our mistakes and make it a goal not to repeat them, or worse, bring it to the next relationship and punish the next person for the previous persons' torment. I would suggest taking my comments, and all the others here, as a small representation of 'how women feel' and what dating is about. A better alternative might be to just stay clear of dating until you can sort throug your feelings and determine what you can own and do differently the next time.

If you don't think you have any blame then I'd take that as a sign to seek out the assistance of a trained professional that who will be impartial and help you. That's what I did. I didn't date for 4 years to 'work on my stuff,' and then found out I really enjoyed my solo life. Ironically, that's when the opposite sex came calling. I volunteer in my community and meet a lot of great people there. Best of luck with your happiness. It's hard work to get there but so worth it. Hi I read your article. I have this guy friend since At first, I ignore it thinking that there's no meaning on it.

But then, one day I ask him what he thinks of me. And he says he likes me and we ended up having a long distance relationship. I think your problem is your self esteem issues. I don't know that I would want to date someone that had those problems. My problem is I'm picky. I'm not settling for just anyone. I will never be that desperate! I am nothing like the bitch you described. He could be sincere about most of these things, really loves animals, children, and really wants a family and won't ever cheat or take off.

Attacking Males for no reason, planting seeds of distrust. This is a load of shit mostly. I met someone on a chat room once and we talked a few times on webcam. I thought he was a nice guy but way too young for me to be interested in romantically. After some time had passed he became mean and nasty. He changed his screen name five times trying to trick me into talking to him again. The last straw was him sending me a message on Facebook.

He was a cyber stalker. I gave up Facebook because of him. Even had a bad experience with eharmony and that is supposed to be the safest. One was a fundamentalist and the other was only interested in sex. How did that happen?! I decided I want to start to look into Internet dating seriously so I can start looking for someone. I met a guy, and I think he is really sweet, and everything. The only thing I'm a little nervous is his constant flirting about cuddling and things. I'm not used to that kind of stuff, so I don't know if it is flirting or something else.

He says he really likes me, and I'm starting to like him. Even though I like him, I want to be careful. The flirting is a clue that this guy is a player. It sounds like you already know he's not for you. So what is a guy to say if he's not a player, but he likes the girl and would enjoy having sex with her? If you want more than sex, try getting interested in her life. Figure out what makes her tick.

So to be clear anyone who likes sex is a player? Then pornstars must be really good actors since women don't like just sex without a lifelong relationships? The human race is doomed without sex I'm also not really sure how someone is labeled a player for enjoying something which science has proved to be healthy In a few years we're going to have the same problem Japan is experiencing now.

That's the problem with relationships today. Sex is special, not a menu item on a short list of requirements in a spouse. It's supposed to enhance a already firmly established relationship. When you give it away to some guy or girl you hardly know or connect with then it cheapen everything you hold of value in the relationship.

How can you give that person something special, something extra when you give it up to everyone else. Players don't care about connection. If you want more than a empty shell of a relationship, you should figure out why that person is special to you first then connect sexually.

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Honestly I couldn't disagree more. What youre stating is year old way of interpreting relationships. I've had the exact opposite experience where I settle down with somebody I thought you had a lot in common with and then found out the sex was horrible and I did most of the work bothbin the relationship and in the bedroom. Women need to get a clue, and men need to start standing up for their own rights. That's actually happening now. You have the right to your opinion. Me personally, I love sex. So I disagree with your comment about western society.

BUT I totally see your point about men doing all the work. That just reiterates my point that sex is special. If you were my man, I would expect you to teach me how you prefer to have relations.


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Sex is more than just the act. It's about building a whole system of physical, mental, and mind-blowing gratification and satisfaction around two people who believe in the same principles, who want the same end-game. To please each other and expect to be pleased. Once again, it's special. If you were my man, I would always seek to please you both in and out of the bedroom. Fun and sex can go hand and hand. But I think you would like it more if you knew how selective your mate is being. Before you actually get to know. If you really want to get to know her, then learn more about her, nit her sexual needs.

That should come much later, after dating for a few months. Any man that can't wait for it, isn't worth going out with or even talking to! The only woman that wants sex on the first date is a ho that also is not worth getting to know. There are way too many of those! The sex that pornstars are having is not a miracle of intimacy.

That's the whole point. Anyone who likes sex with no deeper connection than the purely physical pleasure it provides, well, yes, that person is a "player. I'm not saying being a player is inherently bad. It's just a painful experience for someone who is seeking intimacy to have sex with someone who is not. It's just a mismatch, that's all. PS I have no idea what problems of Japan you are referring to. The modern woman will let a guy know. She might even make that first move. I recommend trying to really listen to and get to know a person--yes, like a friendship that could lead to romance.

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This is preferable to the commodifying. I think apps like Tinder Grindr for gays are for the hookup. The problem is more legitimate dating sites also have people who are on a time-table for sex. It would be nice if we just treated each other like human beings--yes, women to men as well, of course--rather than commodities at Costco.

I tried online dating last year. It was a horrible experience. I deleted my profile and vowed never to use a dating site again.


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    I met a guy, and he is exactly the way u described. I had the same doubt and always had trust issues. I am a smart cookie and was never interested in trusting him. This is exactly what women have done to me, and guess what? You women need to be honest with your men, if you don't want them to be clingy, tell them that!

    If you want a month of being ignored, tell them that also. Playing games is not the way to get a man. You women are very deceitful! You are talking about hurting someone's feelings!?!? You have to be very careful EVEN if it does work! Will tell you about my bitter experience. Last autumn a guy contacted me on FB.

    I had not been looking for a date or relationship at all. But my miserable marriage was about to end and after a lot of bad luck I had experienced in my life I thought I had a chance now. I am an active member of several music fan groups and this guy was added, saw my posts in the group and immediately contacted me via Messenger.

    At first I was just curious - also suspicious he might be a dating scammer - so I thought I might have some fun and took it lightly. This guy was very responsive, yes - witty and very, very fast with replies, so he certainly did not have time to search for suitable quotes, phrases or answers. He added me to his friends group and I went through his Timeline, posts and profile. I am in my early 50s, he was 69, however looking He told me he had just got divorced which was true. He was incredibly fast, in just 5 days he dropped the "L-bomb", fell in love with me, proposed to me.

    I still took it as some fun, a joke perhaps. As I live in Central Europe and he is an American it was very challenging for me, I could practise my written English a lot: He was very intelligent, witty, funny, a great conversationalist. In a month he wrote a long post on his FB prifile - how he met me, that was ready to commit to me and relocate to my country. I have to admit I was totally amazed! He must have spent a fortune on phone calls and chatting from his smarthpone. Every morning I had a lovely love message from him, every night I had a romantic goodnight. Everything seemed so perfect!

    But I decided to test him and did exactly this. I told him I was going to my mom for a month and my mom did not have a computer so I would be offline for one month. And I did it. If you two are not exclusive he can still look for "dates" as much as you can. If you become exclusive and then his profile is still up If he's using the app, he's pretty much going to be "online" at all times. You need to properly close the app to be offline, which basically no one does - They just go to the homescreen on their phone when they're done using the app which doesn't log you off the app.

    Interesting how you put "dating" in quotation marks. Have you had a conversation with this man about what you two are? Have you Defined The Relationship? If not, congrats Missy, you've got yourself a playah on your hands. I wouldn't stress over this. I'm sure your status shows up as always being online too if you're periodically logging in. I've done it when I've been in relationships for fun since I find browsing profiles and judging people to be entertaining.

    I get a lot of responses from women on OKC. I have been on dates with a few women from OKC. I dont make k. I am not that witty. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. We were sleeping together, so when I found it I told him I thought it was a great idea — it means we can have an open relationship and I can date and sleep with other men, while continuing to sleep with him also. I thought it was hilarious!!!! The last part of your post, saying that if he is shopping around and potentially sleeping around , then you can too… yeah, I agree with that.

    Absolutely agree with this post. However… this is an old article during a time where I would get really big questions and edit them down to be shorter in more recent years I generated my answers from more generalized questions and covered all the bases. I met my boyfriend on a dating site. We have been together for a little over 6 months. I did find him under some bogus name. He ended up actually messaging a true friend and I took over. Listen, trust is very important. Take it from me I learned the hard way. If he continues to check the dating site drop him and save yourself some pain down the road.

    There is no reason for him to be on this site. I knew of a guy who did the same thing. They met online were together 2 years and he was still checking his site. She did her own investigation and found out that he was talking to other women from everywhere sometimes he would tell them he had a girlfriend but it was ending or he would tell them he is single. Please listen to your instincts and there is nothing wrong for a man or woman to check out their perspective other not in this day and age.

    If he is trying this relationship with you ask him to delete his profile and you delete yours. The internet and social sites are very tempting to people. I have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. We talked for hours and both expressed how comfortable we felt talking to each other about any topic that you can think of. He is stationed on a US Army Base about 2. After 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time.

    In general, he was never pushy or anything, but the opposite, and I got the impression of him as being a nice and honest guy. I believed him and since we had such a great and easygoing time with each other, I just went with the flow. We saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, I went to visit him this time. He invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. I thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch! I was happy and I told him that and that I liked him a lot.

    He replied that he liked me a lot too. I asked if he was still on that dating site, because I took my profile down about two weeks after we met. During that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. He was right where I was with my opinion, so again — a match. After that weekend we texted each other every day and spoke about every other day, since we both have time consuming jobs.

    I was very worried because I knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. After work he did call me and told me that they are being deployed to Turkey for about days. I was shocked and sad about it, of course, especially since we just had spent a great weekend together but only met twice so far.

    But I knew I had to be supportive and not dwell on my fears, so I did the best I could to cheer him up and not burden him with my worries. He kept me in the loop of events for the following days until he finally left for Turkey, and we spoke before he actually got on the plane. I knew it was going to be tough but hey, it was only for a few weeks, and we promised each other that everything would be fine, that he would be fine. Today he is gone the third day only, and when he arrived there he texted me that getting a wifi hotspot is problematic, but that he would figure it out.

    Yesterday night I somehow had a weird feeling and just out of curiosity I went and googled his name. Up came a link to badoo. My heart made a jump….. Here we are, I have doubts and feel uneasy about the whole thing. So this morning I texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc.

    I struggled with myself whether to bring it up or not about what I had found out, but then I decided to confront him. So I texted him jokingly that then Whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm. He also said that I should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. Also that he got to go and wished me a great day and that we would talk soon. I also said that I wanted to be there for him and support him, and that what he gets from me is honesty and loyalty, but that I require the same.

    I have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him. Always texted me when he was out with friends, letting me know where he was and that he would call me once he got home etc. Whenever he said he would call or text, he did, and in situations when he was held up, he would always let me know. I really need your advice! I know this has become a long message, but I really hope you find the time to reply.

    Thank you so much in advance! My story is I am over 45 and back into dating I was single for 3 years. I joined POF with some nice photos. I had 4 dates with 4 different men and 2 more wanted to date but were no shows. The last one he was a no show the first date which was an odd time sunday morning! Hes a single dad with two grown kids at home, they sepd at xmas. He apologized 5 days later online that is was not me and said I was so gracious etc. He said he did not show that day as he ex came to his home and found him on POF and freaked out.

    This was the reason. But he told me its long over their marriage and said she wont be allowed in his house or at least where his computer is anymore- I could hear anger in his voice. So then a few days goes by he asks if he can see me, so he comes over for coffee it was sunday evening. Things went well I felt a good connection, we made out etc. Saw him one more time a few days later, then he said hes getting a hip surgery and has to work a lot of OT plus his daughter is moving to another city for college with her things hes been moving her.

    I offered to help with anything esp. He said he wanted to see me this Monday which is tomorrow holiday. So 2 hrs later he messaged me. He said he enjoys being around me too. He said I not an option. He said he does not want to lead me on! He said maybe its best if we stop contact until after his surgery and hes well again which could be weeks!

    Then he said he may not get to his computer much to message me!. But he has a phone, why would he say that? It that a way to twist my brain? So I then thanked him and said im going out for birthday drinks. I left him a voicemail 1 hr later just one , its now sunday, he never called me back!! So I went in and deleted mine as well! One guy got mad cause I wanted him to confirm IM hes still coming!! He already has pictures of me, I have sent by phone and I asked him that he had been online, he said it was because he was checking whether I had been online, I have left it a week and sure enough he has been online in the last 24 hours.

    Just recently went through this on another site. We dated for two months, spent a lot of good times together, dinners out, movies, nights out with friends, and eventually sex was involved. He told me that I made him very happy etc. Then he started pulling away, less texting, calls stopped, excuses started.

    I had a feeling he was lying to me about the excuses its happened before. Seems likes bs to me. Well, I shut down my profile a week after meeting him. He continues to be online at unusual times really late at night or early in the morning. If I make him happy, why look at others? Plus, he said he wanted space? This guy i met online and he said he needed space to get over an ex. Its been 6 weeks no contact. His profile was still on but he took down his pictures and remained inactive for a month but just yesterday went online and reattached his pictures.

    Anyway i think its A. Is he trying to test my reaction and call him out on it? Why do guys do this??? I thought he was a genuine nice guy. He told me he loves me and he said he meant it, and would never cheat on me, and I believed it. He constantly went on dating apps to talk to other girls and he confessed to me and told me he cheated on me.

    I felt hurt because I thought I knew him and I thought cheating would be the last thing he would to do me. I never thought he would do that to me because of all the words he had said to me about how much he loves me and so on. He said he is serious about me and called me wifey. He brought me to his parents but seem to be quite scared of letting his friends see me. My boyfriend is very self-centered, which he also admitted. Sometimes I feel like he only cares about himself, pays a lot of attention on himself rather than on me now. I even flew all the way just to get him to talk about this with me because I thought I had to talk about this with him.

    Since our last huge fight regarding him talking to other girls he said he had deleted the dating apps. But he would still talk to a few girls he met on okcupid on whatsapp. I asked him why, he said because this girl called Dion had recently been to korea and he just wanted to ask information about traveling to korea. So that obviously was an excuse. Although my trust to him is kind of broken but I still want to trust him again. We talked about this issue almost every night and I told him I feel hurt that he still talks to girls from dating app.

    Then I asked him if he wants to meet friends then why only talk to pretty slim girls but not guys? Why only pick pretty girls to talk to to be his new friend? Why does he stil want to meet other pretty girls? After another conflict again his mind changed a bit. I said nothing, because minimizing still means he still gets to talk to them. Although we are ok now but I just feel so helpless. My friends kept telling me to dump him. But what about me? Why are men like that? Hello, I read ur full story. I think you are the opposite of me although we share sth in common, I am also an observant girl when I am dating online, which is what I am doing now.

    However, I would do the opposite if I found out the guy I am with is doing all these dating app things behind me. You have made him feel like you will never leave, and he can always get you back as long as he stops it for a while. What I mean is, dress up and make up urself everyday, keep yourself in the best condition, and go out to meet friends and new guys, and let him see these changes! I donno if you have thought about this? If you want to make him become obsess with you, you should just go back to the one you were before, the one who attracted this guy to fall in love with you.

    If the guy looks at your profile, you get a notification. The advice in this article is terrible. His actions are speaking louder than words. He wants something better, or someone else. Since that moment I knew I had to break contact with him since we were not on the same page. I will have to trust his decision, and if I ever feel like my mistrust of him is too big to continue, I will let him know and I will break it off, just like I had intended the first time. This dating scene nowadays is tough , it is tempting not only to look around for other people because dating websites are just a click away, but snooping is easier as well, and very tempting.