Thanks for the vote up! I have never really tried online dating , but this was a very entertaining hub. In those days it was easy to be "the guy who says he is a girl and chats with guys as a girl" guy. In those days the online dating scene was for prison inmates and weirdo's posing as people they were not. But seriously, I met her in the chat room but was not looking to meet anyone, I was just hanging out as a guy and happened to find a normal person who lived nearby. By not looking for love online, I have avoided all of the above profiles you have mentioned. I love the way you used humor to get across a real point.
It can be very dangerous to meet face to face with anyone online.
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BTW, guys, stop looking for the elusive "foot fetish gal". She does not exist as you imagine her. Thank you for your post. Nice to understand the online dating scene from a women's perspective. Only success story I have is running into a chick I dated and became friends after meeting again. And ohhh, a MySpace success story!
I don't hear about too many of those, but I remember dating a guy or two from MySpace. Those dates actually went better than many of my POF dates. Good point about not knowing until you're at mom's house haha. Reminds me of the movie Hangover. Oh yes, the Mama's Boy.
There are plenty of them on dating sites. You just can't tell at first. It takes a date or two sometimes at Mom's house before you realize it. Really fun article to read. Just wanted to add Mama's boy. I do understand that, they can be hard to date when that's all they want to talk about. Even if you, yourself, play games it gets old. I have also dated the gamer guy in the past.
He is not a horrible person, but typically gamer guy is not a fun date I prefer the gamer guy more then any of those guys. I like games and find that if you run out of things to talk about then just ask them what game they are playing and within hours you are able to figure out all the cheats to your new game. I think I've dated just about all the guys on this list, too. There are some real weirdos out there! So awesome, I am 19 years old and have dated all these guys before or at least meet them online or in person. Everything you said is basically true.
Thanks so much for your comment! You are so right As a matter of fact, I think many guys still believe they are in high school and haven't matured much beyond it. It looks like there is not much difference out there from the guys that were in high school, well except there is the scary factor now.
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Thank you and I agree that our "gut" instinct really is the tell-tale sign of fear telling you to run like hell or maybe some fluttery butterfly saying "hey this could work! Thanks for the great advice! I totally believe in background checks too. There are some really shady characters out there. I can't believe what a crazy guy you ending up meeting. I am glad you had him figured out. I think plenty of guys are OK online, just a lot are socially awkward or shy.
It is a crazy world out there! I think most men online are are weirdo's not all but most. A quick real life scenario that happened to me recently. I am a filmmaker who was hiring actors for a short film I was doing.
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One particular actor and I hit it off as friends and started talking. He is currently on his second wife and from the UK Wales. He claims he fell in-love with me and only married twice for his citizenship. I started to smell a rat and felt everything he was saying to me was a lie so I investigated him found his first wife and she told me everything pertaining to who this guy really is.
He has a rape charge against him from when he was 16 cheated on her with transsexuals and a cocktail waitress and was also physically abusive. She and I recently got in-touch with his current wife who is pregnant and sent her some evidence and info. All I have to say is this experience rocked my world and really makes me look at men in a different way.
My advice to everyone is to really do their homework on individuals. I find most people just get caught up in fake charm etc. Really ask questions one thing he always said was "I'm very very smart". I'm glad I didn't date him or marry him not that I would. Pay attention to red flags and listen to your gut. Background checks and interviews with the exes nowadays you can't be too careful or too trusting. I really appreciate your feedback and thanks for sharing my hub. It has been a weird and rocky road with online dating. The online dating and meeting is bitter and sweet experience both at the time or at the different time.
Thanks for sharing this awesome information. Really impressed with your touch to online meeting. This is supposed to be a sarcastic hub based on my actual experiences. There really are some guys like this on the dating sites I don't think it is appropriate to judge people and put them in categories like this. Anyway, seems like you are being really negative and stereotyping people based on vague impressions.
I do know what you mean However, there is a time to let go. I've approached guys that have totally ignored me, too. Thanks for the comment!
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I think we have typecast just a bit. Probably guilty of getting upset when not replied to- but I admit it, at least. You stay on a site for 4 years and meet a profile that is a perfect match I don't think too many men would find this FUN. Of course, you just move on, etc. Great Article, I actually do online dating as well, and yes there are some creapers out there, and there are some good guys too. It's a lot of work filtering through and finding good dates. Thank you for sharing. Oh yes, both show a lot of style and class. When I see those photos, I think "winner! Or sunglasses in a dark room!
Yes, it is an added bonus if the room is dark and the photo is a little grainy. That serial killer look is so hot. Thanks for the comment. Nothing attracts me more than a profile picture of a stern man glaring at the lenses, unshaven , hair a mess, and half naked. Jessie Whitmere - We just might have dated the same guy!
I think some guys need to come to terms with what they really want. It is sad to live a lie. Even weirder, the guy I went out with had even managed to find a wife at some point, but it ended quickly. Bet I know why! There are plenty of people out there that are also shy, but would be happy if someone sent them a message. The worst thing that can happen is someone turns you down or never responds. It is nothing personal. As long as you don't come across as being too forward, people are usually nice to you.
Give it a try! Some people just weren't taught manners and that is a shame. Thanks for dropping by! Great hub advising the perils of online dating. There are so many socially challenged people trying to find love online. They don't get that their demeanor online is just as important as offline. Creepy and aggressive doesn't work in any format. I am single and a male. I have always had a partner all my life until the last couple of years. So i joined a dating site. And one thing you have said is percent correct for me. I have been on the site for 2 years. I never send smiles, messages etc etc.
Because as you said , i don't know how to react. And rather than get it wrong i just look and never interact. That is silly , as i am a nice guy, i am resonabley clever ,[except when it comes to spelling]. But am just not good at talking by typing , particularly when i think the lady is pretty , and i don't want to stuff anything up.
So i just convinse myself i am busy and tell myself i will do something about dating later. I suppose its because i have always meet any partners in person. And we have ended up together just because we meet by chance and got on so well. Dating sites seem so planned , serial killers must like that part. I live in New Zealand and am not sure if we have ever had a serial killer. In fack i have just asked some of my workmates, some being fairly older and they have all siad , NO , NZ has never had a serial killer.
Mind you we didn't realey get into online dating sites until it had been in the USA for quite some time. Perhaps we are just a bit slower at starting new things. Perhaps i could be our first serial killer. And maybe because i make jokes like that it proves i will never do any good at dating. Anyway i enjoyed your hub and i made me laugh.
My only date from an online dating site was with someone who I think might be gay. He made negative comments about my appearance. He also noticed my shoes and makeup and took me to a gay bar. He was also a jerk. We seem to be attracting the same people. So many people tell me success stories, yet I can't seem to find that myself.
I don't know what is going on out there, but there are a lot of weirdos on those sites. Thanks for reading and thanks for the comment! You hit it right on the money!
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I have the power of pulling gay men from the woodwork and have been in the awkward situation of trying to date gay guys many times. I'm sure for many people, online dating is perfect. For me, it was just another way to settle. I met my SO through a friend and am very appreciative of how everything fell into place naturally. Ya there are some good guys out there. I'm very happy with one of them now. Just be careful out there everyone! It sure can be a scary thing sometimes. So far, I've met a couple of decent guys even if it hasn't worked out.
I am usually able to weed out the weirdos before dating them, but every now and then one sneaks through. Thanks for the comment and the concern! Dating online can be a very scary thing. There are all kinds of weirdos out there. Luckily I didn't meet a weirdo and it actually worked out great. I'm still with him and still happy.
Be careful out there everyone though cuz there are a few "special" people who have nothing better to do than mess with people. I guess that is a regional thing. If I find a guy with guns in his photos, he is killing people not animals. I live in Baltimore, so things might be a little different here. I think I might search in a different region so I can see Hunter Guy.
Thanks for sharing this with me! Is that to prove they can bring home the "bacon"?! Are they going to expect me to butcher it?! Turtlewoman, yes, every now and then, there are totally normal guys on these sites. Sometimes they are just shy or they are tired of dating women at bars. Thanks for the votes! I can't stand the bar photos, but even more than that, what type of message does that send? I hate the Mama's Boys, but I have a harder time sorting through those online. I basically just state in my profile not to approach me if a guy lives with his mom. I guess that weeds them out. Thanks for the vote and for sharing!
What a great idea for a hub! Don't know how I never thought of it. This is all so true.
I once got messages by a guy whose main picture was him at bar with his arms around scantily clad women who obviously worked there. Not sure why he thought that would be a good idea for a profile pic! There's one othe type that I came across that ive got to add: Hey I recognize the guy with the beard that you posted! He does look pretty creepy. I'm sure there are a lot of weirdos out there on dating sites. Then there are the shy ones and the really busy professionals Voted up and interesting!
Net porn is endless, free, enormously protean and you can surf it in the privacy of your bedroom. So, men can end up in trouble - and very deeply addicted. Another negative aspect of the technologising of love applies to both sexes. The possible choice of partners online is simply too wide. This may sound contrary - who wants to go back to the time when you had to marry the only bachelor in the village? But think about it this way: What you have to do is think about your true desires in a partner I like them tall, doctors are good, etc.
You whittle down your choices. But in doing that, you throw away the possibility of that unexpected match - the red-headed violinist from Finland you never expected to fancy. A court case in Germany, two years ago, illustrates another undesirable aspect of the net. Remember the cannibal in Germany who wanted to find people who shared his unsavoury fetish? Before the net, he would never have got lucky - given that maybe only a few hundred people in the world were likely to have the same predilection.
But in our modern world, he could locate them - online. Paradoxically, the multiplicity of choice is also the principal reason why the net can be good, indeed brilliant, for lovers. It has the ability to put everyone on earth in contact with everyone else, in an almost utopian way. Using the net, you might just meet the world's only, small, year-old guy from New Zealand who likes taller, older, Scottish, lady number-crunchers. The internet very sweetly marries buyer to seller; it's a superbly efficient market.
This is the reason why eBay is so successful. The internet is - or could be - one big eBay of the human heart. I know of one example of this. A friend of mine is a transvestite, but he likes women. Before the net came along, the chances of him meeting a woman who desired unusual men must have been low. The argument for not having a detailed profile is if you were to meet someone out in the world, you would have to organically learn their views via a conversation. However, one of the benefits of online dating is that you can quickly filter out the wrong people.
I can honestly kill every guy who sends me this message. Right off the bat, this means that I am going to be forced to do all the work. This pisses me off, because unlike many online, I do the work. I read the profiles, I review the answered questions, then I formulate something creative, and I usually throw in a bone so my pursuer can have something to bite on in order to respond to me.
But yet, the hi-person will only come back at me with a one-word response. Not reading my profile. The same reasons one should fill out their profile, are the same reasons I want mine read.