He had loads of swords and machetes on the wall and decided to hold one to my throat to show me how incredibly strong they were?? So yeah there was that. We go for our first date in a pub. We're having a couple drinks, talking and whatnot, I see his hands under the table, moving around. He was touching himself. Apparently I was turning him on too much and he couldn't help himself. Date ended pretty quickly after that. The followup is, when I got home he'd sent me an epically long email about how I was fat and ugly and a tease and a whore. Oh, and ended it with the phrase, "Don't bother responding, because I will not read it.
All this was sparked because I thought sending me a video of two people having sex when we hadn't even kissed yet was a but inappropriate. Too bad I spent a year in Europe and am a stripper who is nowhere near a prude he never learned that though. I thought he was joking even though it wasn't funny but I laughed it off because I didnt know what else to do. Then he starts getting all serious like "its no big deal. In this day and age where anyone with a few bucks can do it quickly and without hardship, somehow it is still seen as adventurous.
I don't get it. It's a thing most people in their 20s do. So many times I've seen almost identical pictures except with different people in it. But to show off one aspect. To be "successful" doing this as a man, you have to contact women to get maybe dates. You still may not like what you get. So you contact another There are plenty of women who will cause you to spend considerable digital time and attention before the first date ever happens, only to flake.
After a while it can start to seem not worth the effort, if you don't strike gold. Which does happen, but it's rare. For a woman, the feelers come in every day or week, and you get all the dates you want. With so much competition for your attention, it's very easy to move on if he doesn't blow you away on first meeting, since there are 20 more waiting in your inbox. Used to be a woman would at least give you a chance for a period of dates, if you weren't an ogre, but nowadays, why should she bother, when there is a list of potential prince charmings only a click away.
I agree with what I saw somebody say about online dating a while ago: You couldn't be more mistaken. I'm not going to speak to everyone's motives, no one can, but for men in online dating, just getting a second date is a major accomplishment. Believe me, if it was easy for men to find a relationship in online dating, this thread and the opinions in it wouldn't be here.
There is no comparison, whatsoever, between the ease with which a woman can get laid and the ease with which a man can find a relationship, either online or offline. Women can get many dates with unattractive guys.
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With online dating, it's easier for women to get laid, and easier for men to find a relationship. This is so true. People forget that many women are in fact looking for more than just a hookup. It sucks that people think that those women are just "rejecting" men when they really just don't see eye to eye with what they want. The hard truth is, these days, dating is just not really a thing anymore. It's like it no longer even exists. It's disturbing to think what dating will be like in another years.
The sad thing is it doesn't have to be that way though. There actually isn't anything inherently about those apps that lends itself to shallowness. On tinder, I reckon guys outnumber girls anywhere from 2: Girls don't need a hook-up app to get laid, they just have to basically exist to get that. The second problem stems from the first one, its that girls will shoot above their class, guys who just want to get pussy shoot below their class.
So because of that, guys who are really hot will be going for mediocre women just to get their dick wet, and they full well know this, so mediocre women won't settle for mediocre men. Why would they, when they can get the hot guy? So what can a below average guy get from tinder? You might have a good personality, sure, but how can you show it on tinder? The other problem is what Tinder is used for. For guys its a way to get laid. Women look for something more serious. Grindr is what Tinder was supposed to be.
Just try it one day and you'll know what I mean. Grindr works the way it does because its only used by men, men who are horny. But for girls tinder isnt that, because if it was, it would be rather pointless for them. I mean just look at how tinder works, you swipe based on a picture, your profile text has a word limit on it, no shit it wasnt meant to be some wholesome place to find a soul mate to have a family with. I'm not saying all men, all women or whatever, or saying that anybody is in the wrong here.
Men and women are very different in terms of sexuality and women are, and always have been, the gatekeepers for sex. This is basic biology, it wasnt any different before hook-up apps. Unless you go back in time when women didn't have the chance to say no. I just think guys are way too desperate for sex. Like the lengths some people go to to get their 2 minutes of disappointing a girl is beyond me. Just rub one out, open tinder after that.
All sexual tension is off. Easier to get laid and women like you more. Just dont visit any night-clubs in Orlando, any of the bible-belt states or dozen or so countries with a death penalty for homosexuality and you'll be fine. A gay acquaintance of mine finds it difficult to date. He's not ugly, but he's not pretty, or hunky, or any other variation of attractive.
He's balding, 20 pounds overweight, and looks like an English Literature professor. There's actually a way more restricted definition of attractiveness for women, and attractiveness in men doesn't rely solely on physical appearance. An average-looking guy will have a better chance than an average-looking girl if he puts in the effort to be likable. The general stats from literally any dating website consistently say the exact opposite of what you just said. Dating websites are absolutely horrible, and completely different to what you encounter in the real world.
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I don't understand what any of that has to do with what we were talking about previously. But you do you my dude. My earlier post said " My next post said "dating websites make it hard to show off your personality". There is a connection between the two, which we can summarize as "it is hard to be likable on a dating website". I also said "dating websites are absolutely horrible", but that was my own personal opinion and it wasn't necessary to the argument, which is that dating websites are different from the real world. Is that simple enough for you, or should I dumb it down a little?
I wasn't being condescending I literally didn't see the relevance. I'm sorry you got so upset by some random on the internet. I don't believe you really think that "you do you my dude" isn't something a condescending asshole says. And you think I should get therapy because of a slightly angry reddit post? No that's just part of my vernacular and it's used to convey a lack of specific interest but also showing positive affirmation for the beliefs and behaviours of other people. It's used constantly where I'm from and there isn't any sarcasm or condescension intended.
You just chose to read it that way because you're an asshole and think everyone is out to get you. So I'm guessing you think that you're a 7, but for some reason, you have no luck scoring with girls who are 7s. You do reasonably well, but for some reason you have this experience unique to this subreddit which is filled with incels, MGTOWs, MRAs and other kinds of misogynists which makes you think the way you do. I want to share a sexual experience.
Is this serious advice? I'm just gonna go ahead and answer for him No the last quote was not serious, he's just saying gay men have it easier when it comes to getting laid. It is sad that any criticism regarding women or life for a modern dude is labeled as being an "incel". I think that the problem with the incel movement is that they are very shitty and extremists, and give a bad name to men everywhere.
Not unlike how Islamic terrorists give Muslims a bad name although incels are a less extreme example IMO Incels actually hurt men as a whole because legitimate complaints of men get shut down as "incel". I like how you offered your perspective and input rationally and honestly. Unfortunately there is alot of criticism of women that reeks of bitterness and misogynistic garbage. I agree with all of your points.
I can see how even getting decent results feels like a win. Plus you never get messaged back. Then you get the chicks with absurd high expectations. Imo, I think online dating for both men and women varies depending on location and demographic. You're going to get different results depending on where you are.
I did come across alot of the basic chick profiles you described I'm bi so I've viewed both male and female. Also, if you're in a smallish town you're kind of fucked because you most likely know everyone and have limited options. When I moved to a bigger more metropolitan city there was an improvement with results for both genders. Yes, online dating was still a pain in the ass, but not because every girl's profile was the same. It was a pain because women got bombarded with messages from dudes that only look at pictures, so getting women to respond was a challenge.
I think men and women just need to go out into the world and try to meet people and give it time. Look up some groups to go hiking or rock climbing or whatever or joins club and really try to have fun and don't focus on picking up someone and see what happens. Also never assume a girl is interested immediately.
Give it some time and eventually be up front and ask her on a date and be clear that it's a date. I think this is what is missing in today's society.
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People rely on these apps and don't make efforts to gtf outside and do something. If you just say "hi" I'm not going to respond. Meanwhile, every message I've ever gotten from a girl has been "hi" which is fine, considering that's the way most interactions begin. Most of us have already learned to be wary. Also, most of us have learned we must take steps to be safe.
And we are hyper-vigilant when approaching or speaking to a prospective partner for the first few times, watching carefully for telltale microexpressions and any other red flags, no matter how tiny: Also, see here for more info. Actually you do by deciding what behaviors to defend and what behaviors to deem socially unacceptable. But there's nothing I can do about it if I already am. Also a lot of rapists are fully aware it is unaccceptable and wrong. It's essentially universal that mass shootings are wrong, but they still happen. If a woman shoots up somewhere, is that all women's fault?
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That's why you choose to ignore the evidence, no? To maintain that delusion. There are some really great ones out there.