They will be proud to have found you and will do whatever it takes to keep you happy. Recently, I have met more and more female doctors looking for love. These women are some of the most gifted and compassionate ladies I know. I hope this article will leave you with a helpful tip or two to use on your quest for finding Mr. Smile and Be Friendly: I have attended many medical meetings and pharmaceutical dinners. The good news about medical conferences is that many of them are male dominated excellent ratio for you women! Some of the meetings are so incredibly dull that men will daydream about women and sex.
On a couple of occasions some of the male attendees will ask me about one of the single female doctors at the meeting: What is her deal? I leave the two of them alone to connect, and I watch her body language. She stands there like she would rather be somewhere else.
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Another great opportunity missed. The female doctor continues to ask if I know anyone at all with whom I could set her up. Men need a clue that you would be open to going out with them. Be expressive, smile a lot, and give out a sweet vibe. The dates will come. Pay attention to your body language. This applies to all women; however, particularly to female doctors.
You will get old. The boobs will sag. The deep wrinkles and jowls will come—sooner than you think. If you were always the one trying to catch the guy—when the going gets tough at work, with the kids, or your physical appearance starts to show the signs of age—he may bolt. The happiest female doctors I know were pursued by their spouses, not the other way around. The fact that a man really worked hard to earn your love will permeate your relationship.
He will continue to work hard to keep you happy. When you pretend to be someone else, you will become exhausted trying to keep the interest of your man. Judge the Men You Date by their Mommy: He might wake up from all his duties and notice your moves. Instead of spending your free time in bars, you can find out where doctors usually stay during their after-hours. Among the most frequent places young and single doctors attend are high-end pubs or some professional associations, e.
You can get an access to several conferences and try to use your charms there. And though doctors may not have time to wander along the streets or looking to meet girls in parks or cafes, they definitely have profiles at popular online dating websites. The rest is as simple as that: They are amazing listeners. They are very smart.
Doctors usually go through a lot of studies till they become licensed specialists and spend lots of years learning new stuff. Your head would spin from all the things they are aware of. They are able to provide their family with financial stability. Of course, their salary depends on the length of their practice, how many hours they devoted to their job, how good they were, etc.
You can get free doctor visits. So if something happens to you and you start feeling sick in the middle of the night, your boyfriend-doctor may come in handy. Perhaps your friends, family members, or coworkers or their significant others know someone single that they could set you up with. Or perhaps there are "Singles' Night" for professionals in your community. Don't rule out any such possibilities until you at least try them.
In the end, give it time. If you keep making a solid effort and devoting time to it, eventually things will begin to click. Personality and looks are a mans key concerns. I don't find your job intimidating one bit. I find your overt humble brag a little much to handle. If you are looking for men in your same socioeconomic situation this may be difficult.
For example, I work in investments and securities and pull well into six figures. If I were still single I would be looking at women in their mid-twenties. The paycheck isn't really what is attractive to guys at least it's not to me , its the independence and maturity on your part that comes with it. There are men out there that really enjoy independent women who can "pull their own weight" so to speak. I, and many other men, would find your ability to be an equal member of a two person team to be the best part of this, because you are financially strong, are well educated, good work ethic so probably reliable, etc.
My bf's friend is married to a female doctor and she makes more than him. Every man is different. If you're going to ask for advice from men, why does it matter where it comes from? Unless you're looking for answers only from people that will tell you what you want to hear. No offense meant genuinely, but it seems that you're looking exclusively for people that can easily get younger and hotter. It's an uncomfortable truth, but there are a lot of those in this world.
This might be oversimplifying it, but you think like how a man would think. Why would a successful virile man want to date essentially another man? Leaving fora while traditional gender roles you might consider the following: Those three points explain why your dating pool is narrow. You are extremely picky while men in your position aren't. This is to large extent self-inflicted. Now going back to gender roles: So not only you are in less desirable group, you also have extremely picky requirements.
You seem to be dismissive when it comes to successful doctor marrying a young school teacher but you wouldn't consider marrying young guy at the beginning of his career. It's not only that your dating pool is naturally smaller it is because of age but mainly it's your own requirements which make it minuscule. I hate the status game.
It's a turn off. I hate such attitude. Honestly, this whole post, including your responses show just how inexperienced you really are about dating, relationships and especially marriage. If you're approaching dating like a business deal where you negotiate your worth in the relationship with your income and status, you're only going to end up coming off boring and rigid. There are younger women out there that are a lot less rigid and yet make enough money to support themselves.
Why would a guy choose to date you over them? That is a serious question by the way.
What do you bring to a relationship that is fun and genuinely makes you an interesting person? Your career sure as he'll isn't interesting at all. The kind of men you are looking to date are the kind of men that have so many options that they will genuinely be interested in finding out if you have outstanding interesting qualities. So what are yours?
Now i have to combine those numbers with the likelihood that someone will be attracted to me as well. You can easily see when you think about it in a formulaic manner, your seemingly small limitations you are placing are dramatically limiting your odds. In other harsher words: You are being overly selective. Unless you are a bombshell and you're not baby crazy men will suspect you are, even if you're not mid 30's dating is a gauntlet to begin with.
I read through the thread real quick, it is very interesting. I can tell you would prefer a partner that has a similar income to you, similarly career focused, and similar life goals. Is that too much to ask? However, you are in your early 30s and have a demanding career. A LOT of the guys you are looking for are not looking for you. The guys you want typically want someone attractive and fun read: This is commonly what guys seek out, they typically aren't looking for someone who can provide for a family and who doesn't have much free time due to a career.
One of your comments said you live in an affluent area and don't come across guys that don't make much money. Get out of your bubble! I don't care where you live, not everyone around you is wealthy. Take an art class or yoga, join a meetup group, etc to find other men who share your interests but not necessarily your socioeconomic class. Truthfully, is it impossible to find the type of guy you want?
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No, but it will be difficult and will probably get harder the older you get. Men don't look care too much about their partners income or their careers. That's not what attracts them. If you really need a guy to make close to what you make, you're going to have to take a lower paying job. Also worth noting, people in their 20s and early 30s got fucked by the economy I was on top of a female Dr. I consider myself an astute guy, and while I've never dated an MD I've been involved with a couple women who had PhD's.
Those relationships had their own merits and conflicts and while I tend to enjoy dating women who are very clever in both those cases it was somewhat intimidating. Questions about the balance of intelligence pop up here now and then and there are always a few guys who are upfront about their preference to be or feel like they are the smarter one in the relationship. Could be you're encountering people with this preference? Another possibility, and this is just speculation, I understand young doctors have to work pretty intense schedules.
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Could it be they're thinking you just won't be around much? The time crunches, no sex because their tired. Having to constantly schedule time, also the attitude the fem doctors I've met seem to have this stupid complex that their better than others. As someone else said, that puts you well behind the curve. The men you're talking about passed on women their own age because the younger women are more at the same stage of life. You may need to broaden your ideas of what you want in a man. Also, you need to make a real effort to get out and meet more men, either online or through activities you're interested in.
Figure that if 1 guy in meets your standards you have to meet men to have 3 good candidates. I have a good friend who was in exactly your position- doctor just out of residency and single. She married a guy she met on her soccer team. He just happened to have an Ivy League degree and, while probably not rich, was doing interesting stuff that eventually developed into a good sized business.
That was probably 28 years ago and they're still happily married. Get involved in your community rather than specifically looking for men and you'll end up rubbing shoulders with men who have their act together as well. It sounds like you are very high maintenance.
I wouldn't feel intimidated by you, but I would feel like you think I am inferior to you if I didn't make more money than you. Disregarding anything about status and money, it's just easier to form a relationship when you're younger. I would, for example, much rather date a younger woman who was more available to me not working the hours doctors work and the stress that comes with it than someone whose life I would fit into and makes a ton of money in a very difficult career, so to speak.
You may have had a better chance finding a meaningful relationship when you were younger but chose a career over that. Sometimes, you can't have everything you want. That said, don't go all doom and gloom. Just because some men like a certain type of women doesn't mean all men do. You can find someone who will make you happy and that you will make happy. Stay positive and keep trying. I wonder why you think that a guy needs to be in the same economic class as you. Money must mean a lot more to you than you think it does.
Honestly, I quit my "big important banker" job and work for a state agency making about 30k a year. Because money isn't important. I would totes date a doctor. I'm just a regular dude interested being happy and engaging in things that interest me other than money. Maybe it's just me, but if I were making in the k range I would look for a more I'd want someone college educated and all, but it just doesn't make sense to have two partners both charging after a difficult, time-consuming career. If I'm busting my balls to earn more than enough money for a family, I'd rather have a partner more focused on the domestic side of things.
If I were less successful, I might be more interested in a more ambitious woman, so I'd take care of more things around the house. As others said, you are pretty focused on income wealth. No matter the gender it can strain relationships to have a large income disparity. Lots of good things already mentioned here. Just some advice that hasn't already been mentioned: Family medicine is not really that high up on the average income compared to the typical white collar worker.
Discounted cash flows are a bitch. Look for software engineers. They're upper class, respect intelligence and like career-oriented women, and suffer from major gender disparity the other way. I think I'm in the dating pool you are considering. I'm 32, sorted in my career, own a house, etc. I currently have a girlfriend, she is I'm pretty close to my peak. I've got maybe another 5 years of being at my peak of fitness and attractiveness. My wealth is only going to increase although I now work part time to focus on things that matter to me. While its good that you have sorted your life out, you have to understand that this doesn't mean a lot to someone in my position.
What I'm more interested in is compatibility, and like some other posters have mentioned, physical compatibility is part of this. When it comes to a career, I care about someone's attitude and their potential. The woman I'm seeing at the moment is an aspiring author. Her writing is good, things might work out for her, or they might not. The tl;dr here is that I do value youth, beauty, and potential more than things like success and earning potential.
I have enough success to go around. The people you should if I may be so bold be looking at, are men that value success and earning potential. I'm not sure what kind of guy this would be, as I haven't really considered beyond what I want. There's lots of guys out there that would jump at dating a well earning female doctor that isn't overly old You need to remember that these guys are generally in their physical prime, and have a very wide choice of partners.
Remember what dating was like when you were 21? This is what it is like for the guys you are looking for, except they also have the fat paycheck. Nothing to do with redpill, you just want us to coddle and conform you. It's sad that you cant and wont handle the truth. So our ages are close. You are financially stable. So unless you are not mentally stable, there is no reason you shouldnt be able to find someone to date. But yeah money won't make you more awesome magically. Except if you are looking for a sugar mammay type of relationship.
You're already at a disadvantage. Guys don't care so much about a woman's career success as a woman would care about a man's career success. You're already in your 30's, meaning a successful man that you're seeking can have what he wants in a woman that's young, hot and tight. Because again, he doesn't care much about how much money the woman makes. You're limiting yourself in what kind of man you want.
There aren't that many wealthy men out there. And most are already married or are looking for young girls in their 20's. Relationship are not like careers, you can't just set a path and then once you're done doing your thing, think that's it's so easy to just "find a man. You remind me of my aunt. She is in her 40s, never married, overweight, works all the time, and always complaining about how the men where she lives only like young big breasted women. Because actual equality escapes women. Women are sexist and there's no buts about it.
I have nothing against them but I have had interesting conversations about this in the past Guys don't care about wether a girl makes a lot of money or not.
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My friend's uncle makes , a year about the same amount as a doctor. At 50 years old he was able to marry a 25 year old girl from brazil who looks like a model, cooks and cleans, and knows how to have fun. She is the type of woman every guy who is being honest with himself wants. A successful man can get any woman he wants and he can take care of himself so he doesn't want your money.
Many will have to settle. Also a lot of women are simply disrespectful because they make a lot of money. They try to degrade their partners as a man because they make close to or more than them. Many guys who have dealt with that in the past will not deal with that again. She is a successful doctor and will only be with a man that can spoil her. The only sure fire way to protect all your assets is a prenup. Also consider loosely has something to do with the subject many woman want nothing to do with a relationship before a certain age.
Lets say it is between depending on the person. They have their looks on their side so it is no big deal to them. When guys try to talk to you, you reject them for being a nice guy. Keep telling yourself he just wants to get in your pants. By the time woman want a relationship, guys are at the point where their career choices pay off. Guys stop wanting relationships because they realize that they have access to a pool of beautiful amongst other things women that wouldnt give them the time of day before.
Guys lose all interest in dating at this point. Your career doesn't matter. All those things you listed in your first paragraph aren't things men necessarily look for, those are qualities women look for. You spent all your time trying to achieve a goal. I don't want to be an afterthought to you and would assume being a doctor keeps you fairly busy. I can't say I run into many female doctors.
Then again, I'm in my mid 20s, so you don't exactly see women my age who are doctors. I'll let you know in a few years though. I don't think I've ever met a doctor outside of work, and trying to hit on a female doctor is a terrible idea. I've worked in a doctor's office with a hot doctor who this happens to, and those stories are repeatedly brought up to laugh at during parties. Speaking as someone who falls into your economic compatibility range, I don't think I could date you because you focus so much on income, income disparity, and desired income of a significant other.
I could care less what somebody makes. Making 40k or k. Public school teacher or doctor. None of those things are going to make me more or less attracted to someone. What will make me less attracted to someone is when they harp on how much they make, how much I make, and anything else having to do with income or money in general. Speaking personally, when I was single, I had a "never date people in the medical field" rule. Every woman I ever went out with who worked in a hospital was fucking batshit insane.
I mean way more than the usual, acceptable level of chick-crazy. We're talking the cat killing, window gazing, phone stealing, hair cutting level of crazy. Tl;dr but I have met a female doctor who I found interesting and attractive and would have pursued a relationship with her, but apparently she wasn't interested: My roommate is in his residency and he keeps trying to hook me up with female doctors.
I'd love to date some of them, problem is they're too busy. Because I'm an overweight, balding, denture wearing, nerd with a liberal arts degree making little money?
I'm probably not the type of guy most doctors are looking for. You, for example, seem to have a pretty specific type of guy in mind which drastically narrows your dating pool. Nothing wrong with being picky, just realize that by being picky you may not find someone or you may find someone later on. Just don't marry another doctor, that shit doesn't work. My parents are both doctors, they divorced. I would love to date a doctor, assuming she was a great person that I connected with otherwise.
I actually find it really attractive and respectable for a woman to have the ambition and intelligence to achieve that. That being said, you would never want to date me. I'm only in my early 20s, but I will likely never make 90k in the career field I'm going into. As an aspiring doctor in his mid 20s, I can see some of my colleagues going the same way - incredibly career driven but otherwise okay. But they've never had a boyfriend and some have never even gone on a date. The problem is that girls date 'up'. Very few girls I know date guys who are both younger, in a lower sec and with fewer career prospects.
For guys the opposite tends to be true. For better or worse I am perfectly happy dating a girl who doesn't want to work in an intensive field. As someone else said you're trying to flip the gender balance while occupying the original side - or at least the few priveleges afforded to women from stereotypical gender roles. In this regard the odds are stacked in the favour of men - with increasing age and position in life, men tend to become more attractive to women. The opposite may be true for women?
Though you are still young, so don't despair. Establishing a relationship by the time you've settled in your specialty is one thing, but after? Thankfully online dating is still there. It's way way easier for women as well. Look for things that you find attractive in a guy and search for that. This may come as a shock, but there are men who don't constantly worry about women trying steal their money. Some of them even marry people because they like them and not because they see their spouse as a status symbol. Your socioeconomic requirement ignores something far more important.
There are plenty of people with 4 year degrees who meet your socioeconomic requirements by age However many of them will be intimidated by your level of education and your high status job.
You might have better luck looking for educated men even if they make considerably less then you do. Umm no, just no I have never been intimidated by what a woman does for a living. Nor can I think of any male friend who has said they were intimated when dating some woman that had a better job then them. I think you are deluding yourself. Your friend is most likely happy with a school teacher that he can come home to and have a nice relaxing time with and start a family rather some woman harping about how much he make and mistaking his revulsion for her as "being intimidating".
I was married to a surgeon, dumped her and had another prominent surgeon try to convince me to be with her and impregnate her. It pissed them off that I made a LOT more money than they did, that I wasn't at their beck and call, that I had a career I was heavily invested in and my income would only grow, that my ex-wife wanted to have children thankfully, I wasn't that stupid and be some sort of stay-at-home father like a fucking pet dog and that my career wasn't as important as hers.
I required a prenuptial agreement when we got married and it saved my financial ass. I told her she was probably going to get a surrogate and have a turkey baster used on her to have children. It pissed her off. Fast forward years later and that's exactly what she did and she's raising twins now, through a nanny.
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I rest my case. This is the norm. It's ridiculous and pointless with no upside. You're about my age and I'll be in your target income bracket after I graduate software engineer. I don't have a good solution for you, but here's my perspective:. The reality is that the amount of money you make is completely irrelevant. I'll make enough for money to not be an issue. I'm not making scrooge mcduck money, but over right out of college is enough to live comfortably.
Age is a problem. Another old person doesn't improve things. Assuming years dating, years marriage, then kids. To be blunt, I want a younger woman to help minimize problems with having kids. Not only are none of those things a turn on, but some of them actually turn me off.
I couldn't give a shit about your job or your social status. The higher the income, the more of a turn off it is for me. In my experience, the richer someone is the less likely they are to be able to empathise with poorer people and the more likely they are to blame them for their relative lack of 'success', as if money is the most important thing in the world.
This isn't all rich people of course, but I'm already on the back foot if you make that much money. I'm already thinking that you could be that kind of person. On top of that, your job means that you probably won't have much time for me. I completely can't related with the OP, I would date a doctor because intelligence is sexy as fuck.
I can honestly say I have never met a single doctor, so maybe its more of a situation of where do single doctors hang out? Would the OP date you? Do you earn around k a year, and possibly physically attractive? If so, you have a good chance.